Stop Saying “God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle.”

Because He absolutely will

Jul 16, 2025

“This was a positive result,” the nurse told us as we stood blinking under bright lights in the exam room.

That day years ago, when we found out our infant son had cystic fibrosis, I felt like God had kicked me in the teeth.

I stood there holding this tiny, beautiful baby boy, listened to the words “incurable disease,” and thought: This isn’t supposed to happen.

People had told me for years, “Don’t worry, God won’t give you more than you can handle.”

But that day, I knew that he had.

I could not handle this. Not the diagnosis. Not the fear. Not the crushing realization that life was never going to look like what I’d imagined.

And in that moment, a terrible, uncomfortable truth surfaced:

I didn’t fully trust God.
Not really. Not in the way I thought I did.

Deep down, I believed God was asking me to be strong enough. To figure it out. To hold everything together. To “handle it.”

But I couldn’t. And it broke me.

The Lie of “Handling It All”

Somewhere along the line, someone started saying, “Don’t worry—God won’t give you more than you can handle.”

It sounds comforting. Except it isn’t true. And if you’ve ever been blindsided by suffering, you know how hollow it feels.

The truth? God absolutely allows more than we can handle. And though it can feel terrible, it’s not cruelty. It’s grace.

God doesn’t expect you to grit your teeth and carry it alone. He expects you to let him in. To stop white-knuckling life and start surrendering it.

What That Diagnosis Taught Me

In the months after our son’s diagnosis, I discovered something I’d missed all along:

God isn’t asking us to be “strong enough.” He’s not asking us to “handle” anything.

He’s asking us to give him everything—our fear, our anger, our grief, our exhaustion, our total inability to cope.

I had to pray, over and over: “Jesus, I can’t do this. But you can.”

And every time I handed him the weight I couldn’t carry, he gave me back peace—not a tidy, Instagrammable kind of peace, but a deep, steady, grounding presence.

It wasn’t magic. It didn’t make the pain go away. But it gave me the strength to show up to the next moment, and then the next, without crumbling.

And isn’t that what we’re all desperate for?

God’s Strength, Not Yours

You don’t have to be the glue holding everything together.
You don’t have to fake it until you make it.
You don’t have to be “enough.”

You already have a God who is.

He doesn’t just give you things to handle. He gives you Himself.

☑️ Do This Today:

Think of one thing on your plate that feels too heavy. Whisper:

“Jesus, I give this to you. Be strong for me.”

Then let God carry it. For real this time. 🤍

With grace,